Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partner needs space when the other has abandonment trauma.Read More
Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Also discussed: the "medical model" of trans identities, and the process of medical pathologizingRead More
This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The word/phrase/concept discussed at the beginning is Dungeon Master (the kink kind, not the D&D kind).Read More
Happy 2019! The wait is over and we're back to answer your listener questions about sex, family, queerness, fat allyship, and more. Thank you to all the vulnerable people who sent us questions and put themselves out there. We really appreciate your questions and a chance to share your growth with the QSE audience.Read More
This is an audio version of Sara's Medium article titled Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice.
QSE will be back NEXT WEEK, I promise. Thank you for your patience and understanding <3Read More
Sara and Jay discuss news stories that you may have missed this year. We also discuss stories to keep tracking in 2019. QSE will be back next year after a short break for the week of New Year's. We hope you have a wonderful time celebrating the last year and finding love, support, and community in 2019.Read More
Sara and Jay celebrate a new year by looking back at their favorite moments, best sex toys, top kink memories, and a special surprise segment about making mistakes. Also we look forward to think about our intentions for the next year.Read More
This week Sara and Jay talk about fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queerness gets portrayed as inherently sexual.Read More
Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, ways you can try switching, and things to think about when you're negotiating play where people switch roles.Read More
This episode of QSE was recorded live at CU Boulder! Jay and Sara discuss defining sex and why that's so difficult to do. Also discussed: STI testing, demisexuality, the sexphobia of SESTA/FOSTA, growing confidence as a dom, and so much more when we take audience questions.Read More
Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more.Read More
Sara reads her most recent article about voter suppression for Medium.com. Please vote if you can in the US on November 6th, but remember that this system will never change just from votes alone.
"Voting is important work. If you are working on voting rights and access, what you do matters. However, I also need you to understand that the reasons people can’t or don’t vote are largely linked to their oppression. Until we address that underlying bigotry, voting will continue to be restricted and manipulated to oppress people who are already marginalized."Read More
Sara and Jay are talking about voting, voter suppression, and gerrymandering this week. If you're wondering why a sex ed show is talking about this, we're excited for you to learn!Read More
Jay and Sara are answering your questions this week! Thank you to everyone who was vulnerable and asked us to help you move through difficult things.
Discussed in this episode: dysphoria and eating disorder history, family rejection, telling a partner you are no longer attracted to them, fatphobia in dating preferences, what queer porn do we enjoy, supporting ethical porn production, and the pitfalls of focusing on inclusive language without inclusive action for allies.Read More
Sara and Jay are BACK and this time we're talking about boundaries, rules, agreements, and how you can figure out what your boundaries are and what you need to feel safe.Read More
Sara is back with another clip episode while the show is on a quick hiatus. This week we have clips from episodes 2, 14, and 16 about kink, BDSM, dominance, and submission, enjoy!Read More
Sara edited together some of her favorite moments about communication from past QSE episodes while she is healing from surgery. New episodes should be back in a few weeks, thank you for understanding.Read More
Sara is back to read another article she recently published on Medium. This one is about how Nazis came to power and what we can learn from their legal structures, America's history, and our current legal climate.
You can read-along with the article here: https://medium.com/@QSE/the-time-for-never-again-has-passed-americans-are-complicit-in-genocide-as-defined-by-the-un-940b368e63e5Read More
Sara and Jay dive deep into heteronormativity, including how the assumption that everyone is straight shapes our world and what we can do to fight back against it. Also discussed: searching for a trans gene, assimilation, and how the nature vs nurture debate harms us all.Read More
This week Sara and Jay tackle how we can make sex toys that are marketed to able bodied cis men and women work for fat bodies, trans bodies, disabled bodies, and all different kinds of bodies.
Topics include: sex negativity, making binary toys less binary, naming your body parts, experimenting, identifying pervertibles, and lots more!Read More