The Trans Military Ban and Listener Questions - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 50

Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partner needs space when the other has abandonment trauma.

7:36 - Trans Military Ban
30:30 - Patreon Message
34:30 - Question Intro
41:22 - Question 1, Staying dominant while bottoming
52:30 - Question 2,  What to do when one partner needs space and the other struggles with abandonment
1:10:18 - Question 3, Finding a trans-competent therapist for my son

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