This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap toys, and kinky craft time.Read More
This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary crossing online. Also discussed: the male gaze, what app developers could do better, what we can do better as users, and tips for making your online dating focused on consent, communication, and mutually sexy fun.Read More
This is the culmination of our four-part series on transgender medicine, focused on what a trans liberation future really looks like. Also discussed: A trans research update from Jay's conference including exciting news about HRT, fertility, PReP, and more!Read More
This week Jay and Sara dig down into "biological sex" and break down why it's a problem, how it's more complicated than you probably know, and new ways to discuss bodies without binary sex. Also discussed: research impacts of using biological sex, expanding the trans medical model, and how we project gender and sexuality onto animals.Read More
This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the many reasons we enjoy butt stuff. Future episodes will cover more specific activities, answer your butt questions, and dive further into why there is so much stigma built up around butt sex and ass play.Read More
Jay and Sara continue their discussion of trans medicine by focusing on current barriers to care caused by our medical model of trans identity. Also discussed: transmedicalism, solidarity work, and what non-binary transition can look like.Read More
Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partner needs space when the other has abandonment trauma.Read More
Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Also discussed: the "medical model" of trans identities, and the process of medical pathologizingRead More
This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The word/phrase/concept discussed at the beginning is Dungeon Master (the kink kind, not the D&D kind).Read More
Happy 2019! The wait is over and we're back to answer your listener questions about sex, family, queerness, fat allyship, and more. Thank you to all the vulnerable people who sent us questions and put themselves out there. We really appreciate your questions and a chance to share your growth with the QSE audience.Read More
This is an audio version of Sara's Medium article titled Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice.
QSE will be back NEXT WEEK, I promise. Thank you for your patience and understanding <3Read More
Sara and Jay discuss news stories that you may have missed this year. We also discuss stories to keep tracking in 2019. QSE will be back next year after a short break for the week of New Year's. We hope you have a wonderful time celebrating the last year and finding love, support, and community in 2019.Read More
Sara and Jay celebrate a new year by looking back at their favorite moments, best sex toys, top kink memories, and a special surprise segment about making mistakes. Also we look forward to think about our intentions for the next year.Read More
This week Sara and Jay talk about fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queerness gets portrayed as inherently sexual.Read More
Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, ways you can try switching, and things to think about when you're negotiating play where people switch roles.Read More
This episode of QSE was recorded live at CU Boulder! Jay and Sara discuss defining sex and why that's so difficult to do. Also discussed: STI testing, demisexuality, the sexphobia of SESTA/FOSTA, growing confidence as a dom, and so much more when we take audience questions.Read More
Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more.Read More
Sara reads her most recent article about voter suppression for Medium.com. Please vote if you can in the US on November 6th, but remember that this system will never change just from votes alone.
"Voting is important work. If you are working on voting rights and access, what you do matters. However, I also need you to understand that the reasons people can’t or don’t vote are largely linked to their oppression. Until we address that underlying bigotry, voting will continue to be restricted and manipulated to oppress people who are already marginalized."Read More
Sara and Jay are talking about voting, voter suppression, and gerrymandering this week. If you're wondering why a sex ed show is talking about this, we're excited for you to learn!Read More
Jay and Sara are answering your questions this week! Thank you to everyone who was vulnerable and asked us to help you move through difficult things.
Discussed in this episode: dysphoria and eating disorder history, family rejection, telling a partner you are no longer attracted to them, fatphobia in dating preferences, what queer porn do we enjoy, supporting ethical porn production, and the pitfalls of focusing on inclusive language without inclusive action for allies.Read More