Sara and Jay dive deep into heteronormativity, including how the assumption that everyone is straight shapes our world and what we can do to fight back against it. Also discussed: searching for a trans gene, assimilation, and how the nature vs nurture debate harms us all.Read More
This week Sara and Jay tackle how we can make sex toys that are marketed to able bodied cis men and women work for fat bodies, trans bodies, disabled bodies, and all different kinds of bodies.
Topics include: sex negativity, making binary toys less binary, naming your body parts, experimenting, identifying pervertibles, and lots more!Read More
Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys!
How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the heck is an erogenous zone?? Answers to these questions and more on this week's QSE.Read More
Sara and Jay finish their discussion from last week with how modern laws, policies, and structures continue to fuel queer criminalization today. Also discussed: ICE and immigration enforcement, BDSM criminalization case law, HIV laws, SESTA/FOSTA, mass incarceration, and more. Thanks for sticking with us through a pair of difficult and important episodes.Read More
Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish queer and trans people.Read More
Sara and Jay sit down with Chris Barcelos, a researcher studying queer sexuality, teenage pregnancy, and health messaging. We discuss many different things including whether to double down on a moderate message in times of crisis or transform, messaging around teen pregnancy, how sex health is racist, the untold history of sexual health education in the USA, and much more.Read More
This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealing with the difference between a bigoted preference and a response to past trauma.
Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more.Read More
Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Topics discussed include: STI disclosure, cutting a glove to make a dental dam, building a personal/community safety plan that doesn't involve police, icebreaker games for sex education groups, cis allyship, and dating at work.Read More
JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrote on Medium with you. This one is about dating and transphobia.Read More
This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized identities, content we would like to see in sexual education, and some conversation about how openly exploring sexuality has changed our lives.Read More
Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed. This discussion went over three hours, so we split it into two parts. The second part will be available next Thursday.Read More
Sara delivered this presentation at the Gender Infinity Conference in Houston just a few days after leaving her job to do Queer Sex Ed full time. Topics include: who gets left out of sex ed, expanding the scope of sex ed, and where our sexual scripts come from.Read More
Jay and Sara discuss the broad spectrum of reproductive justice work as well as contraception, abortion, adoption, foster care, and ART (assisted reproductive technologies) from a trans-focused and queer-focused perspective.
This week Jay and Sara talk about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) including a discussion of the word "risk", tips on how you can talk to your partner, and some STI facts you probably never learned in school.Read More
Sara and Jay answer your questions on this week's show! Topics include: speaking at universities, consent to have difficult conversations, coming out and finding community later in life, healing polyamory trauma, and shifting how we teach sex ed.Read More
This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of conflict that happen in relationships, share communication skills for more effective conflict resolution, and talk about the difference between active and passive communication. Also discussed: cheating, heteronormative scripts, and emotional labor.Read More
Jay and Sara talk about talking! How can you communicate with your partners, friends, and fuck buddies in a way that is direct, honest, and kind. Also discussed: metamours, sexual communication, and mental health in relationships.Read More
This week, Sara and Jay dive deep into submission, including a discussion of different types of pain, what subspace actually is, how some people use kink to heal from trauma, different types of submissive terms you may see online, and consensual nonconsent play (with a timestamp to skip the discussion, if you'd like).Read More
Sara reads her article on Medium about binary sex and gender. Sara and Jay were unable to record this week, but will be back next week with a discussion episode about submission! You can read the text version of the article in this episode at www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615Read More