This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealing with the difference between a bigoted preference and a response to past trauma.
Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more.Read More
Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at email@example.com.
Topics discussed include: STI disclosure, cutting a glove to make a dental dam, building a personal/community safety plan that doesn't involve police, icebreaker games for sex education groups, cis allyship, and dating at work.Read More
JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrote on Medium with you. This one is about dating and transphobia.Read More
This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized identities, content we would like to see in sexual education, and some conversation about how openly exploring sexuality has changed our lives.Read More
Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed. This discussion went over three hours, so we split it into two parts. The second part will be available next Thursday.Read More
Sara delivered this presentation at the Gender Infinity Conference in Houston just a few days after leaving her job to do Queer Sex Ed full time. Topics include: who gets left out of sex ed, expanding the scope of sex ed, and where our sexual scripts come from.Read More
Jay and Sara discuss the broad spectrum of reproductive justice work as well as contraception, abortion, adoption, foster care, and ART (assisted reproductive technologies) from a trans-focused and queer-focused perspective.
This week Jay and Sara talk about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) including a discussion of the word "risk", tips on how you can talk to your partner, and some STI facts you probably never learned in school.Read More
Sara and Jay answer your questions on this week's show! Topics include: speaking at universities, consent to have difficult conversations, coming out and finding community later in life, healing polyamory trauma, and shifting how we teach sex ed.Read More
This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of conflict that happen in relationships, share communication skills for more effective conflict resolution, and talk about the difference between active and passive communication. Also discussed: cheating, heteronormative scripts, and emotional labor.Read More
Jay and Sara talk about talking! How can you communicate with your partners, friends, and fuck buddies in a way that is direct, honest, and kind. Also discussed: metamours, sexual communication, and mental health in relationships.Read More
This week, Sara and Jay dive deep into submission, including a discussion of different types of pain, what subspace actually is, how some people use kink to heal from trauma, different types of submissive terms you may see online, and consensual nonconsent play (with a timestamp to skip the discussion, if you'd like).Read More
Sara reads her article on Medium about binary sex and gender. Sara and Jay were unable to record this week, but will be back next week with a discussion episode about submission! You can read the text version of the article in this episode at www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615Read More
Sara and Jay discuss all things dominance! This episode dives deep into the kink role that has the control in a BDSM scene and all of the different facets of dominance that don't usually get talked about in kinky conversations.
Also discussed: Playing with orgasm denial, dealing with sub drop and dom drop, and interrupting toxic masculinity in dominance.Read More
Sara was interviewed on Portland's KBOO Radio Station for their Transpositive weekly show. They talked about why Sara started QSE, sex positivity, and the magic of trans people dating each other.Read More
Sara talks with Marla Renee Stewart from the Sex Down South Conference and Velvet Lips about helping people find sexual confidence, sharing your desires with your partners, starting the Sex Down South Conference, her experiences in academia as a sex researcher, and finding love for her body.Read More
Sara and Jay discuss how you can share your sexual and intimate desires, including strategies for starting the conversation, tools you can use to find where your desires overlap, and ways you can build communicative relationships in every aspect of your life.
Also discussed: fetish, fetishization, and a question about being in polyamorous and kink communities as a therapist.Read More
Sara and Jay discuss different types of LTRs and LDRs, including thoughts on how you can keep connecting over distance and time with the same person or people, how to ask for what you need, and ways you can work together to build your relationships collaboratively.
Also discussed: Consent, #metoo, the impact of sexual violence, and sex toys for fat bodies.Read More
Sara and Jay discuss desire, exploration, and how you can identify what you want, learn more about sexual activities you may want to try, and how you could pursue those desires alone or with other folks. Also discussed: Asexual identities, aromantic identities, and a discussion of poly friendships and asexual relationships.Read More